We all have it, and it is one of the things that makes humans united.
Even as a child, holding onto our security blanket could be a big challenge and losing it feels like the world is collapsing. A comfort object, transitional object, or ‘security blanket’ is an item used to provide psychological comfort, especially in unusual or unique situations, or at bedtime for children. I too had a security blanket, except mine was actually a pillow. I was extremely attached to my security pillow, that I wouldn’t allow my own brother to touch it, let alone play with it.
He didn’t know why he shouldn’t play with it and I didn’t know why he should! I was protecting my comfort and he was fighting for his freedom. Once he sat on my pillow and I cried so loud that our neighbour called to make sure everything is ok!
We laugh at those days now, but I do wonder sometimes what made me overreact.
Now I know, no matter what the challenge is, big or small, the number of layers it carries could be countless. It may leave us with all sorts of mental imbalance or does nothing! Or help us grow in some ways. Going over problems, again and again, just rehearsing how terrible you feel, may not help at all. Talking things through with someone who can help you reframe your problems, and help you move through them can be much more helpful, and that’s the role of a therapist. The therapeutic relationship is a safe and welcoming environment, for you to search for the comfort you lost.